SOMETIMES YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW WHEN YOU'VE LOST SOMETHING

Sometimes you don't even know when you've lost something!

Thinking of Dad. I LOVE him so much. Benevolent dictator. FIRST memory is his game, when we were riding in the car, of giving prize of one dime to the one who first sees and shares the news of "I see a rainbow!" and "I see the lake" (we were traveling to). That instilled in me (I don't know about my brother and sisters) the sense of anticipation instead of irritation and impatience; and a sense of joy in sharing the news of a joyful event of creation. Oooh! What a sweet lesson Dad taught. Did he know how sweet and wonderful that lesson was?

Other memories: he presided over our saying prayers at bedtime for a time, at least. That made me realize it must be a good thing to pray to God. In church, he enforced a "no fidgeting" rule by holding my two (fidgeting) hands in his ONE big hand closest to me. I don't know if that was necessarily good. It sounds odd, now, that a parent would  object to a child fidgeting in church. But the combination of his expressing in that way that church is important AND paying some attention to me, the youngest of 4 children -that was helpful to me, I think. I think there was a peaceful security in his calm insistence on this stillness while he listened to the sermon, etc.

I was envious of my older siblings, that they got to have Dad involved in their homework (I remember watching as Dad and David constructed replica of Jefferson's home or something, using an upside-down wooden bowl for the rotunda. And Dad went on Boy scouts camping and canoeing.) BUT, I really enjoyed bonding with Dad while I helped him by holding a board end while he sawed, or helping bundle up branches or yard clippings on warm summer days. That was MY opportunity to bond with Dad.

And Dad was the one who pushed and prodded me to get a job after college graduation, and gave me a direction to go in. Maybe it wasn't the best direction for me. Or maybe it WAS. After all, maybe he noticed that I enjoyed making mudpies in the backyard when I was a child. And he did see that I got a degree in soil and crop science at A&M. So a job as a soil lab tech was a good guess for me.

I'm not sure what I was going to talk about that was lost. Let me list a few things.
1) well, when my Dad died, I DID mourn and grieve him so. I was almost more devastated that my children would not know him than for my loss of my father.
But one thing that many children (myself included) of reticent parents regret is not asking their parents more about THEIR lives and decisions and growing up years and wisdom and hopes and dreams. Yes, I wish I could have known him better.

2) One painful family wound of my growing up years was my sister's decision to embrace a foreign strange religion. I know that she does not think of her religion that way. (I'm guessing that to her it makes sense as a religion, or did when she initially embraced it.) But although the tenets of her faith deny it, that belief system IS a denial- of Christ's choice to be a sacrifice; our sinfulness; and of His Divine nature.
My parents were mild, kind parents as far as I know. I don't know that they even tried to dissuade my sister in her choice. They may have been on the defensive when she made that decision. That's because part (most? all?) of her decision to leave Christianity was her realization of  and judgement of the racist attitudes that were a part of our parents' mentality and were generally (non verbally) promoted by the white "Christian" community that we were part of.
It maybe wasn't until later that they realized the magnitude of her choice, and the wrongness of their decision to forbid her from dating a young man who was African American. I say that because the methodists of that day (at least me personally) were not readers of the Bible, which is the foundation of the Christian faith and understanding and the main means through which God speaks to us.

VULNERABLE

Vulnerable

I just had an "ahah" moment and want to preserve it and share it here.

I am reading the Mick LaSalle review of HBO documentary "Robin Williams: Come Inside My Mind" (Houston Chronicle, 7-16-18) So toward the end of documentary and review we all contemplate that time in Robin's life leading up to his suicide. I had last night been talking to a friend about another friend's suicide years ago and that the unfortunate friend in my past had the affliction of hearing voices in her head. (God, bless that precious child of Yours.)

This is the important truth that just fell out of the mix: People are most open to our Creator God and trying to do things His way, including receiving the gift of forgiveness that God has made available through Jesus' sacrifice, when they have been diagnosed with a terminal or other horrible disease or have endured some other personal hardship.
(This connects in my mind with thoughts and a conversation I've had recently about some other really nice people I've known who seem to have had noticeably more than their share of  misfortune, but who seems, again, really nice and open and wise and open to our Creator God.)
What if people are, in fact, more vulnerable and open -to God- when they are in the midst of trouble; and
what if the devil -the Bible, including Jesus, speaks of the devil and demons- sees such ones and knows that they are most open to God then and so launches his greatest attacks at such times BECAUSE devil knows that person could be open to receive God's good then.

Wow! That thought is important to me.
The Christian establishment has accepted for centuries (two, at least) that times of trouble are times when people are most open to help. I don't know how long the concept of employing or commissioning a chaplain in war situations or military or hospitals or hospice- how long that's been going on. But I would say that the  chaplains' place in society is based on two truths (not one truth, as I previously thought): 1) people need extra  spiritual and mental help at these times of extremity, and 2) these times are also times of special opportunity for the hearts of the afflicted ones.
That last paragraph reminds me of something former president Obama said: "An obstacle is an opportunity." (Put correct quote here)

If the devil sees those difficult times as times of opportunity and acts vigorously to cut those times short (by screaming "kill yourself! there is no hope!" into the inner ear of these afflicted ones), we who have God's good answer should  also act vigorously for those ones.

So I need to act upon this truth.

Thank you, Jesus.

THE WRONG FIGHT AT THE WRONG TIME

The wrong fight at the wrong time

The church I have been a member of all these years -this church and these church leaders -have recently chosen to embrace as a church leader(?) a man who is living as a homosexual. In a "marriage". with a man.

I feel like I am accusing somebody, but I am just telling you what these church leaders and the man himself have declared as their choices.

I believe that God (still) thinks in terms of our obeying Him or choosing not to obey Him; He IS our Creator. He made us. We owe Him honor.
We owe Him the honor of following His laws the best that we can; NOT asking Him to "honor us and our choices".
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I remember when the wrongness of the "Gay (et al) Pride" attitude and mentality came home to me. I was reading about the organization called FFLAG (friends and family of lesbians and gays). One of the members of that organization was saying that we need to learn to "respect and honor the choices that that loved one has made". It suddenly struck me how backwards that was. What about the "gay" person respecting and honoring his or her parent by at least not embracing and shouting from the rooftops his embracing of "gay lifestyle"? Why is that not spoken of? Why shouldn't the younger one respect the elder, who gave that one life and love and many things? Instead, the younger is asking the older to respect him (or her)?!?
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Some, these days, believe that the set of actual "sins" is different than in the past. (I was in a meeting at our Methodist church today, 5-12-18, where an educated man pointed out that Jesus did not ever articulate condemnation of homosexuality. He never said anything about it. However, there are things spoken against homosexuality later in the NEW TESTAMENT. I wonder if that man considers those words as being in opposition to Jesus' teachings.) I agree that Jesus' and other New Testament parameters describing sin are less specific and more sweeping and love- oriented than the Old Testament "list". (Like: Don't walk down the street and only say to one in need "I love you,  brother. I wish you well. God bless you", but not do anything to help that one.)

However,  Jesus said to the woman guilty of adultery ("caught in adultery"), "Go and sin no more."
So, I guess Jesus was saying adultery is still a sin. I say homosexual behavior is a form of adultery. Here we get to what I consider is the (very!) WEAK SPOT in Christian condemnation of homosexuality.

Here I am going to jump right in to my thesis in this blog post: the mainline Christian churches weakened their position that homosexuality is unbiblical when we/ they chose to accept divorce and remarriage as "ok", not sinful.
DID YOU HEAR ME, PEOPLE? I SAID MAINLINE CHURCHES HAVE WEAKENED OUR ARGUMENT AGAINST HOMOSEXUALITY BY EMBRACING DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE BY MEMBERS OF CHURCHES. But it's not that simple.
The issue is complicated. First of all, somewhere along the line someone thought it was a good idea to have "no fault" divorce. So people in the community are discouraged from identifying one member of the marriage as being to blame for the divorce, either because that one divorced the partner for not a good reason or because the truly guilty party committed adultery or deserted the family in some way. (not trying to support your family is a desertion.)

So the church establishment of some denominations has chosen to not clarify the sins and issues of divorce, seeming to want to not ruffle feathers.

Also, marriages can have in them abuse large and small of various kinds. Pastors , on the whole, have chosen not to enter the private world of the marriage of others to correct sins on one or both sides. Hey! I don't know if this is true! I don't know if women come to their pastor and plead with the pastor to talk to the husband as a spiritual leader to try to get the husband to stop belittling the wife and/or children, or wasting the money the family needs, or not trying to get or keep a job, or  don't adultery. Maybe the women would be afraid that a man prone to violence would get violent. OR, maybe the wife is horribly dishonoring to her husband (well, maybe he deserves it, but . . .) Maybe she is a horrible lazy homemaker, and a complainer. What about that?
And what if the man really cannot get or keep a job? Does that ever happen?
It's too complicated!!

So what am I saying?
That even though the divorce and REMARRIAGE with maybe de facto adultery and tangled aspects to it is so hard for Christians to address, and help people in troubled marriages, Christian leaders have caused those in "homosexual camp" to stumble because in the back of their mind, the "HOMOSEXUALITY is ok" people are thinking, "those ones are being hypocritical because they say nothing about the Bible teaching on divorce and remarriage while pointing an accusing finger at us. Therefore, their condemnation of homosexuality is invalid."
Ok. That's what I wanted to say.